You have probably heard the cliche that some couples stay together because they have children when they would otherwise get divorced. Is this really something people do, or do they just split up and sort out the custody details in court?
Many parents, trying to shield their children from the realities of an adult world, choose not to tell their kids that they are getting a divorce until they absolutely have to. Some even wait until one parent actually moves out of the house to explain what is happening.
Children are the most important part of a family, even one that is changing form. Offspring may feel powerless when their parents are getting a divorce, because their lives are changing forever and there is not much they can do about it.
You're getting divorced, and you are trying to figure out how to divide custody of your children. Should they live with you one week and then go to your ex's house the next week? This does mean a lot of time in the car, a rather complicated living situation for the kids -- who may not really feel "at home" in either location -- and the need to buy two of a lot of things.