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'Big-picture' questions people often ask during divorce

Your spouse tells you that they want to get divorced, and you have a lot of immediate questions to ask about things that need to get resolved quickly. What should you do with the house? Who has to pay off the debt? How do you create a parenting plan?

It is important to ask these questions and seek answers. What you do during a divorce helps to define what your life looks like after the split. That's something you want to take seriously.

Is your doctor a businessman?

Do you trust your doctor? Do you assume that he or she has your best interests in mind, all the time?

Most of us do, but some experts in the medical community think that it is a bit naive. As one doctor himself put it so bluntly: "Don't trust your doctor. There's no question in my mind that today most doctors are businessmen first and doctors second."

Smartphone addiction and personal safety

Have you ever felt like it's time to just turn your phone off and take a break for a couple of days? Have you ever considered deleting your social media accounts and going back to a time when you didn't see every picture, when you didn't know everything that everyone was doing?

You're not alone. When smartphones first came out, people were astounded by the technology and the possibilities. As those aspects have only gotten better, though, they've also discovered a serious downside. Smartphones are incredibly addicting, they can be overwhelming, and it's just getting worse.

4 things you should tell your kids about your divorce

For many parents who are thinking of ending their relationships, nothing is more daunting than actually telling the children about that upcoming divorce. Parents have time to think about it, consider it and plan for it. Kids do not. They may feel blindsided, they may not want it to happen and they may feel like they have no control. It can be hard for them.

To make it go smoothly, consider your children's best interests to tell them in a way that caters to their needs and their well-being. For instance, tell all of your children at the same time so no one child knows before the others. Tell them at a family meeting, with both parents present, and take the time to answer their questions. Remember that your concerns and theirs will not always be the same.

College football player dies in car accident

A young man in North Carolina was a standout high school football player, and he wound up at Winston-Salem State University to continue his career on the field. However, he was tragically killed in a recent car accident. He was in his freshman year at the school, and he was just 18 years old.

The young man was from Fayetteville, and he had taken a weekend trip back to visit his home and his family. Right around 4:00 p.m. on November 19, he was involved in a car accident that left two people dead. One of the vehicles caught on fire, making it impossible for police to identify the second victim at this time.

Do people really stay together for their children?

You have probably heard the cliche that some couples stay together because they have children when they would otherwise get divorced. Is this really something people do, or do they just split up and sort out the custody details in court?

It's not always an either/or proposition. In many cases, couples who eventually get divorced acknowledge that they only took as long as they did because they were trying to make that relationship last for their children.

The risks of teenage rebellion at younger ages

All teenagers seem to rebel to a certain degree. For some, the rebellions are minor: dying their hair, listening to different music than their parents, or asking to get tattoos. For others, it's more drastic: using drugs, having sex, drinking alcohol and breaking the law.

While the reasons for rebellion tend to be unique to each case, one thing that researchers point out is that many teens face outside pressure to rebel at a very young age. They say that this is happening to teens at a younger age than ever for previous generations.

Exercise can help a back injury, but you must be careful

A back injury often heals very slowly. To help it progress, you can do specific exercises and stretches meant to strengthen your back, your core and your legs. Examples include things like back extensions, sit-ups and side bends.

Rest is helpful for healing, as your doctor probably told you, but that does not mean you should be neglectful of your own physical health. The more you can do to improve your fitness, the better off you'll be. The right exercises should push your body toward full healing and help it recover more quickly and more completely.

Why do physicians get burned out?

When you go in for surgery or just for a checkup, how invested is your physician? This is something that is potentially life-changing for you. Does your doctor even care? Or does the doctor look exhausted, like they cannot wait to get home? Maybe they even look like they wish they had chosen a different career path entirely.

This can set off some alarm bells in your head. The last thing you need is a fatigued doctor who mentally checked out before you even got into the room. That type of attitude can lead to a loss of focus and simple mistakes. You could suffer serious injuries or have a medical condition go overlooked.

Should you tell your children what you are leaving them?

You know what assets you want to leave to your children, but should you tell them exactly what they're going to get when you make your estate plan? Or is that something you should leave for them to find out after you pass away?

Generally speaking, it is always best to tell the kids as far in advance as you can. There are a few positive benefits to doing this, such as:

  • They will not assume anything. Expectations can be a problem when they are not fulfilled. If your children assume you have $2 million and you really only have $200,000, you want to temper those expectations in advance.
  • You can stop them from disputing the will or fighting over the assets. For instance, maybe you have two children and just one home. You want the house to stay in the family, as it has for generations, but you plan to leave it to just one child. The other may feel shocked to find out about this, but it is better for that shock to come while you are still around. This can stop a dispute later because your heirs know it is what you really wanted.
  • You can explain your decisions. This may be necessary with unequal inheritances, for example. Your reasoning for leaving more to your son than your daughter could be that she is financially successful on her own, while your son is not. You're just trying to help the child who needs it. Explaining this helps your daughter because she does not feel like you unfairly favored your son.

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